It's been forever!
Yikes! How could I have neglected this blog for so long? Sorry, y’all- and thanks for sticking around. Things these days are pretty good! Came out to three of my best friends and it feels awesome :D Thinking I’m getting close to that place with my family where I might be able to have that conversation and know that they’ll be mostly okay with it. My biggest fear is that they...
Fisting 101: now with subtitles! →
innerfatgirl: click here for the subtitled version of the Fisting 101 video! (NSFW) It’s all in the title, folks, and this is probably one of the most incredible videos I’ve ever seen on the subject (okay, the only one I’ve seen) REGARDLESS it’s incredible. And it’s SO important to educate ourselves on safe sex practices- especially non-normative ones! Consent...
Facts about being in the closet:
After doing a lot of soul-searching, I have discovered that I an truly Kinsey-6 gay. All the sexual energy within me is for women! It’s hard being such a lesbian and being in the closet because my friends don’t know, and unknowingly put me in strict heteronormative situations, and I’m like… uhhh…. sure he’s hot? It’s a tough situation but I feel so much...
There is controversy over whether an orientation once fixed is ever open to...– -Dan O. Via, homosexual-affirming theologian. I (Jeanie) have been spending most of my life since childhood trying to make myself fit in to the heterosexual mold my family and society and church have cut out for me. I have lied to others and to myself to fit into the mold. It is time that I am true...
I came out to one of my best friends last night....
We were both tipsy from homecoming celebrations and went outside our dorm to clear our heads. Through the course of conversation, she told me she had been kind of struggling with her sexual identity because she felt, at this stage in her life, that she didn’t care about the gender of the person she fell in love with. It was in the mind, and gender didn’t matter. She had already talked...
A letter to the PC(USA) via Rev. Hunter Farrell...
hjscott: Dear Brother in Christ, I am writing you with the request that you share these thoughts with my brothers and sisters in the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.): It is incumbent upon all of God’s children to speak out against injustice. It is sometimes equally important to speak in solidarity when justice has been done. For that reason I am writing to affirm my belief that in making...
The Presbyterian Church (USA) ordained its first openly gay minister on Saturday...– Presbyterian Church ordains first gay minister | Reuters (via simsian) So proud of the denomination I grew up in!
A directory of LGBT friendly churches in the... →
jennaanne01: Dear ________,
On the fear of coming out:
I have been weighing my options about coming out (even in the distant future) to my family and honestly found that I’d rather isolate myself than having to face coming out to them. Some of them just don’t understand what it is to be gay. Others kind of get it but think it’s wrong. A few would probably be okay with it. Most of my extended family would think I was a damned sinner...
You'd think that the Religious Right would be more...
rather than who I love.
The Bible as a guide for living.... seems a little...
astonishingog: In her radio show, Dr. Laura Schlesinger (a popular conservative radio talk show host in the USA) said that homosexuality is an abomination according to the Bible Leviticus 18:22, and cannot be condoned under any circumstance. The following response is an open letter to Dr. Laura, and was attributed to a James M. Kauffman, Ed. D. _______________________ Dear Dr. Laura: Thank you...
Still having nagging thoughts
that I might be asexual or just a really, really late bloomer. I don’t know of any straight 20 year old women without so much as a male celebrity crush. I think I’m terrified of being gay and I’m looking for an escape route. Am I the only one?
Every day I feel the overwhelming urge
to come out to my closest friends. I feel like every day that I participate in the typical heteronormative college female experience is a day I deny myself and lead my friends on to think I’m someone I’m not. Every time I lie and say I’m straight I feel like I’m disrespecting myself. Beyond that, I just want someone IRL to know. I want IRL support and understanding. It...
Every time I get worried about my family disowning...
I remember that Jesus’ family didn’t support him. Jesus, I believe, was God, so of course he would have had the courage to continue his earthly journey and radical teaching. But I know that Jesus can relate to me, and I know that Jesus loves for me, cares for me, and is watching out for me. If I come out to my family, I know that Jesus will understand and give me the strength to...
I wonder if the pro-life homo-haters
would have defended my right to live as a fetus if they knew that I would grow to become a lesbian minister.
Do I have to reconcile my dreams?
When I started daydreaming about my future children when I was younger, I always wanted to stay at home with them and possibly homeschool them. Not because I want to religiously indoctrinate them, but I want them to avoid the intense bullying I received. Also, if God trusts me with children to raise, I want to raise them- not a daycare or school. I want to be with my children to love them, support...
I don't believe people are "born gay" sorry, I...
Anyone else want to handle how this girl’s post is problematic? I’m too busy beating my head against a wall.
illbecomeyourwings: Please visit this link for information on opposing House Bill 777/Senate Bill 106 (the anti-LGBT constitutional amendment) in North Carolina. HB777/SB106 will be voted on sometime this week and we really need all of the support we can get to oppose this. If you don’t live in North Carolina, it would be really helpful if you reblog this so others will see.
Today I noticed that I have been mentally identifying as a lesbian more frequently than I have in the past. I think it’s a sign that I am accepting myself more and am becoming more self-aware. I’m glad that I’m accepting myself and loving myself for who I am, but I’m also afraid of my sexual identification. At the back of my mind there’s a weirdly reassuring thought...
Anonymous asked: I relate to all.. I mean *ALL* your personal posts.
Yesterday I got scared.
I was pondering my sexuality, as I often do these days, and got terrified. I was thinking of all the stigma that lesbian couples receive- that hate, the loss of family or friends, no rights in my state, inability to adopt children (at least in my state). I thought it was so terrible that lesbian couples have to face that and wished that I never would have to. Then I remembered that I was gay....
Let me be something every minute of every hour of my life. Let me be happy; let...– A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Betty Smith (via creatingaquietmind) This is my favorite book!
honey-guts asked: I hope eventually things will pan out with your family.
kt17: beautifulllllll. Listened to this song...
I hate lying.
But I feel like I do it every day I stay closeted. I go along with my friends drooling over guys, and to avoid awkward questions I agree with them. Whenever I’m doing stuff for the straight-gay alliance, people ask me if I’m gay or if it’s for straight people as well. I tell them, of course it’s for straight people! I’m straight. I need to stop doing that because I...